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A Little Motherly Advice from Jane Austen’s Mothers

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Jane Austen never had children of her own, and she never wrote a conduct manual for mothers, but her novels certainly speak volumes about canada goose outlet her opinion on the state of motherhood in 18th century England and specifically that of the landed gentry.

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The mothers in this category, such as Lady Catherine de Bourgh and Mrs. Ferrars, possess money and power, and they use both to rule over their offspring. Lacking in motherly affection or compassion, their matchmaking is purely strategic.

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Canada Goose Outlet With only these examples of motherhood, one might think Austen had nothing good to say on the topic of mothers. Thankfully, Austen’s novels do provide us with redemptive motherly moments as well. Canada Goose Outlet

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In Persuasion, Austen presents a handsome picture of motherhood in Mrs. Musgrove. She loves her own children, worries that her grandchildren are being spoiled, and cares for the Harville children while Mrs. Harville nurses Louisa. At Christmas, the Musgroves bring the Harville children home with them and “receive their happy boys and canada goose outlet in chicago girls from school” (129). Austen describes Mrs. Musgrove’s home at Christmas as “a fine family piece.” There, Mrs. Musgrove is surrounded by “the little Harvilles,” a group of “chattering girls” at a table “cutting up silk and gold paper,” and “riotous boys” holding “high revel” near “tressels and trays, bending under the weight of brawn and cold pies” (134).

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On a day when we celebrate mothers everywhere, let us thank all of the mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, canada goose outlet store quebec and mentors who have guided and loved us through the various seasons of our lives.

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