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Overall, we are fortunate and thankful for our lives.After the birth of our second moncler outlet prices child, I was done. I had considered getting a vasectomy (snipped). Many of my dad friends had done it and recommended I do it. My wife was against it, and I wasn really wanting to do it either for other reasons.My wife always semi joked she wanted another kid, and had quipped she felt incomplete and that moncler uk outlet being a mother is her calling. She is an excellent, patient mother to our children. However, I felt it was a phase and she could get her “baby fix” with friends newborns. I did not feel a need to moncler womens jackets have another child, and was quite against it. I was frank with her on the matter, but because of the differing opinion and emotional confrontation, we avoided discussing it at length.Fast forward to 2 weeks uk moncler outlet ago when my wife informs me she missed her period and sure she is pregnant. 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Guilt, for crushing her dreams and not supporting the idea of a third child when moncler sale online its something she wants very badly.One day I wrote out an objective list of reasons (many of which are cited above) why having a third child was a bad idea. After a few more days of trying to ignore the issue, we had our blowup. I presented her my list and she listened, acknowledging they were valid and made sense. She then countered with her moncler outlet store belief that this was meant to be, and she could not in good conscious have an abortion. It would stay with her forever and she says she would never get over it, and would forever resent me for pushing the issue. I told her I might resent the child and her for letting this happen. I slept on the couch that night, feeling disgust and bitterness.The next morning there was nothing else to do but discuss it more. I again said I wasn interested, and she can force this on moncler sale me. She again countered with her same argument that it was meant to be, that our “next phase” of children would just have to wait a few more years. I yelled I would be almost 60 years old at this child high school graduation. I want to play moncler outlet woodbury sports with my kids and be active, not the “old dad”. I said I wouldn care, not even over the name we would give it. I said I wound go with her to the doctor appointment. I told her she was being selfish and not putting what she has now over what she might have. She told me she would start contacting a divorce lawyer if this was how it was going to be.It only been a few days since that talk, but I am completely stunned and not myself. I was a zombie at work, not able to focus on anything. At home I been short tempered and avoiding everything. I cried in my car, cried in the bathroom. Borderline panic attacks. I frantically researching mental health professionals, as I need to talk to someone. I haven seen a counselor since before we were married. I can talk to my family or friends until the doctor visit to confirm the pregnancy. I feel like an absolute asshole for saying cheap moncler coats mens the things I said and my attitude, and I can take moncler usa that back. Even if it isn a viable pregnancy, or she miscarries, I made my mark and she will always think less of me. I scared she regrets even having ever met me. I absolutely DO NOT want to break up our family, I love my children and family. I am certain a divorce would ruin all of us.We are at an absolute impasse. She is set in her mind, the only thing that could stop this is the doctor saying she or the baby are not healthy and viable.I beside myself. It not that I don love children, I really do. And I know I still love the child regardless, it not the child fault and they should not be treated unfairly. And she may be right, that it is only raising another baby is temporary and it pass and everything will be OK and we will all be happier. But what if it not? What if this was a bad idea and our quality of life is destroyed? What if I do resent her, or she resents me because of my opinion. What if her feeling of being “incomplete” is just a phase and she really just misses doting on a newborn. What if that feeling doesn go away cheap Moncler jackets after a third child? Am I the selfish one? Are my doubts unreasonable? What can I do?Well if you keep going the way you are now it won be the newborn to destroy your marriage, you doing it all by yourself.I get it, I would be upset too. 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